Also, fun fact: being nice to someone you hate does NOT make you two faced
it makes you a mature adult who knows when to pick their battles and when to just let it go and tolerate someone for their shitty personality.
if you think otherwise grow up
SO MANY PEOPLE TO SHOW THIS TO IT ACTUALLY HURTS ME
10 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE DATING OR FRIENDS WITH A MANIPULATOR:
1. Playing Innocent
A manipulator does not take responsibility for hurting others and instead plays innocent, acting like he is the harmed party when confronted about his hurtful behavior. By playing innocent and casting himself as the victim, he tries to throw his partner off balance, making her feel unjustified or even guilty about challenging his behavior. She may even become sympathetic, feeling that his bad experiences hurt him, instead of seeing his manipulative behavior as an attempt to win at all costs.
2. Rationalizing Behavior
A manipulator will offer rationalizations that justify his behavior, reasons that come close enough to making sense that the partner being manipulated is easily put off guard. The rationalizations are not his true motives, merely a means of justifying his conduct so as to avoid having to have a realistic discussion about changing it.
3. Now You See It, Now You Don’t
Try to discuss an area of disagreement with a manipulator, and the manipulator may try to retain control by changing the topic or throwing in everything including the kitchen sink to distract his partner from the discussion topic.
A classic example of how a manipulator diverts attention from the topic at hand is to talk about how the behavior he’s committed, and the partner has identified as a problem, is something other people do to him. He turns the discussion from his wrongdoing to how he is so often wronged.
Another approach is for him to introduce extraneous factors rather than respond directly to comments or questions.
4. Playing Dumb
Rather than address criticism or requests to change behaviors, a manipulator will often play dumb. With the goal of maintaining power and control, he will ignore the requests and not listen to others’s suggestions.
5. Sharing Half-Truths
A manipulator is likely to hide information that is relevant or deny his behavior by sharing just enough of the truth as necessary to convince others of his honesty. Key aspects of a situation may not be disclosed by a manipulator seeking to maintain control.
6. Inducing Guilt
A manipulative person makes accusations when confronted about his own behavior. Some classics are to accuse the partner of not loving him enough, not doing enough for him, or not doing enough to help him. His inability to change is portrayed as his partner’s fault. Typically, a manipulator chooses an empathetic partner who is vulnerable to this tactic.
7. Jokes and Insults
A manipulator will try to shame or intimidate his partner by making insulting remarks. When confronted, the manipulator will often try to pass off his rude and insulting remarks as “jokes.” A careful and honest listener will realize that his jokes are not funny and have serious, unfriendly overtones.
8. Blaming Others
A manipulator avoids responsibility for his own conduct by blaming others for causing it.
9. Minimizing the Significance of Behavior
Expect a manipulator to accuse his partner of making too big a deal out of his behavior. The partner will be accused of exaggerating the behavior itself or its significance. In other words, the manipulator contends “it’s not me who has the problem.”
10: Bullying the Victim
At the first sign his partner is trying to hold him accountable for his behavior, a manipulator may begin to turn the tables by bullying the partner. He may accuse the partner of wrongdoing on other occasions or of always treating him badly. By bullying the partner, he expects her to back off and let him maintain his controlling position.
***”Manipulation is a learned behavior — no one is born with it. It’s very much a survival strategy learned from early childhood and therefore changing the behavior is near impossible. Your time is better invested in developing strategies to protect yourselves, because you can never change a manipulator’s actions.”
In other words, dump the jerk and then look into how you attracted him in the first place. “Women who attract manipulators tend to lack self-worth and assertiveness, and they tend to be people pleasers. They trust to the point of ignorance and therefore do not realize that they are being manipulated until they have been in emotional turmoil for some time. It can often be years before they see the situation for what it really is.”
But once you do recognize it, you can put a stop to it. “First, take responsibility and own up to being a victim and a target. And most importantly, get out of the relationship and become who you really are; not something someone else wants you to be.”
Guys, this is really super important. I’ve seen too many people I love—intelligent, caring people—get stuck in manipulative relationships with people who hurt them and took advantage of them. I’ve had manipulative people in my life, and it took me years to get away from them and even longer to undo the damage to myself. Manipulative people can be any gender, not just in a romantic relationship, and probably the worst thing they do is make you feel crazy and guilty and fucked up just like they are, and make you doubt your own perceptions of the truth until you can’t see a way out anymore and think you’re the one who’s wrong (or crazy or ungrateful or whatever load they’re trying to dump on you).
I’ve seen people go through this and I’ve not been able to do much more than stand by and watch. I still feel terrible about that. But I’ve also seen those people break free and survive, and I want you all to know that if you’ve been in a situation like that or are trying to get out of one, or even if you’re still struggling with doubt and confusion about what’s real, you are not alone, you are not crazy, and your feelings are important. And it is NOT your fault. Being in an abusive or manipulative relationship doesn’t mean you’re weak or gullible; manipulative people are PREDATORS, but learning how to identify the warning signs can help you avoid being victimized again. You are strong, you are a good person, and even if I don’t know you, I’m really proud of you.
Why does Meet The Robinsons get no love?
It has singing frogs
And time travel
And a man is married to a hand puppet
And a tyrannosaurus rex randomly shows up halfway through but is unable to do anything because the people he was chasing run into a corner and he has little arms
And the villan is a hat
I legitimately do not understand what’s not to love about this movie
YOU LEFT OUT THE BEST PART
THE MORAL WAS LITERALLY PERFECT AND GREAT ADVICE
I don’t understand people…
So this is a commercial for a new engineering toy marketed towards young girls. It’s adorable, and totally the sort of thing that should be available in all toy stores- hooray!
But the comment section below the video is ridiculous… on the one hand you have people being all:
"Why are they only marketing it at girls?! What about the boys?!?"
then on the other you have people being all like
If you want to actually do something good- you shouldn’t have made it traditionally girly colors- you’re just reinforcing gender stereotypes!”
I’m sitting here like… wow… really?
Well, I like your premise Goldie Blox.
Penguin falls down resulting in best sound ever [x]
oh my god
Paul Rudd has been playing one of the longest-running and most demented jokes in late-night TV history on Conan.
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